You’ll be there for me?

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Sometimes you want someone to be around you, to share, talk, crib, gossip or merely for their presence. While, some other times you just want to be alone, with no one to bother you at all. It depends on how you feel at that moment and that is completely okay too. No one should be obligated to talk to anyone if they don’t feel like it. Neither should we have such unrealistic expectations. However, when you choose to have a person at your disposal – to be around when you need them and then forgetting they exist, is that fair in the name of friendship and love? To me, it seems incredibly selfish, but then that is the major principle on which the world works. I agree one needs to be selfish if they are going through something bad, if they need to pick themselves up mentally or if you are at the lemon side in life and trying to move towards the lemonade. At such times, you need to be a priority in your life. Does that mean you can be keep someone at bay even when you are okay enough to either let them in or be straight with them that you cannot do this? Why does kindness go unnoticed so often? I mean Inspite of being completely aware of where they stand, some people will still be there around you, lending you the much needed ear for your sufferings or a shoulder to cry on. Silent, strong, non-complaining, non-demanding. More so like air, whose value isn’t understood until its not there anymore. It’s important you realize that those people might need you too, they won’t say so but might need you all the same. Or maybe they have said it, but you had no interest in understanding that. Don’t wait till you suffocate in their absence. Be there for them too, always. Care. You love them alright, show them the same. Let them feel cherished. Those few people are for keeps. When someone you love becomes a memory, the memory becomes a treasure. Don’t let them be just in memories, treasure such people. Keep them safe.

43 thoughts on “You’ll be there for me?

  1. Loved your post! It absolutely happened to me that when somebody needed me they gave me so much attention and when life was good of them, they completely sidelined me. My boyfriend did that! And I had always felt so upset about it! Loved your post ❤

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    • Yes, that’s how it should be. It’s when people claim to be all in but you can clearly see that they are not. We are just remembered in plight, for happiness they have many options. It’s hurtful but it’s a learning experience.

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  2. A beautiful post, as always, my dear friend. Agreed, cherishing others comes through cherishing the self, which creates the love for ourselves and then everyone else. Reciprocity is also important in relationships. I love that you chose the word, cherish. Powerfully important. ❤

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  3. This is so beautifully written, Pooja! I find that it’s extremely selfish to have someone at your disposal like that – to use when you need them and neglect when you don’t. Kindness is underrated. It’s hard to find people who are willing to lend a listening ear or a shoulder when you’re down. Such people should be treasured and never let go. Btw I loved it when you said people who are in the lemon side of their moving towards the lemonade side! Great phrase.

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    • Shwetaaaaa! That is such an indepth and amazing comment 😭❤ thank you thank you so much! Love you for spending your time and helping me with such intricate feedbacks! I agree, such people are rare and it sucks to be on the receiving end. Worst feeling, to be used whether it is intentional or not. It still hurts loads !

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      • Always a pleasure, my dear. Your post really made me think and I was jotting down by train of thoughts. Yes, it’s the worst feeling in the world to be exploited. It hurts a lot.

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  4. “Why does kindness go unnoticed so often?” i feel it is because it is expected and becomes blurred in the background. but evil/hate demands attention. the news is filled with such things and not enough of the kindness. we seem to thrive on the bad. sigh….

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