I have been Queer Eyed!

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I have been a lover of this show called QUEER EYE since FOREVER and it gives me so many feels when I see it! Today, all day we binged QUEER EYE while working and my love for this show has somehow increased which I didn’t know was a possibility. I continuously have this huge smile or happy tears when I am watching this show, I do “YASS GIRL” so many times I could give you a headache. Not even kidding. This show embraces learning and positivity in such an endearing way, you cannot help but feel so good.

They cover people’s struggles and show how one can learn so much from it. We must accept each part of ourselves, the good, the bad and the ugly. It makes us who we are. Oh and we are all so stunning! No matter how much the society or your own family has dragged you down, or your own thoughts are your demons, you deserve happiness. In abundance. Just look for it with open arms and most importantly, learn to show yourself love. One of the best parts about the show (as per me) is how they pick common people, like you and me, and make us the star of our lives and the show. Well, it’s so obvious really. We are the rockstars and heroes of our own lives and we deserve that attention and happiness. If you use movie as a metaphor for your life, be the badass main lead and pamper yourself for being so amazing. Yes, we falter. That is what makes this movie a hit, how you get over it and do better from there on. How you enjoy the ups and survive the downs. Rememeber that if you are experiencing the down, it’s not the end, hold on tight as the happiness will come to you.

You don’t need to do something extraordinary to deserve the happiness and love. Your struggles are defined by you and so are your victories. The best and the most relevant validation you can receive is from your ownself. Be a winner in your eyes. I wish we all had friends in our lives like those five superheros on the show which showed us how we are amazing and made us love ourselves in such a beautiful manner. The entire process is heart warming and to watch people win against their inner struggles is the kind of content that is the need of the hour in these tough times. Ah, I cannot stop fangirling over the show. If there is one thing you need to start watching is this show. Thank me later for the recommendation 🙂

If you had to choose a movie to describe your life, which would it be? Mine would be a mix of Ye Jawaani Hai Deewani, Dead Poets Society and Inside Out.

For the love of cinema!

Let me start by asking whoever is reading this, what is cinema to you?

If there is something I have missed dearly since March 2020, it is being able to go to the theater and be a part of a new world everytime. I love movies. For me, cinema is meant to be an escape as well as a mirror. Sometimes, I am looking for an escape from the real world, the real problems and I just want to watch something magical, sappy and feel good. Some other times, I am looking to watch something which has a message for everyone and shows what is going on with world. Either ways, films never disappoint. You can count on them to make you feel happy, sad and my favorite feeling magical. I have related to Kabir saying “main rukna nahi chahta”, fallen for more characters than I can count and believed that Avengers can save the world. Call me filmy only because I am one.

I know not all movies live upto expectations but the experience is always precious. Always. It could be you watching the movie alone or with bunch of people you love or movie with your date. The joke cracked or an anecdote shared during a relatable scene, it really tells you a little more about the person you are with. If you are someone who loves to be silent during the movie, the movie itself is your experience. I have loved watching alone, with my friends, with my boyfriend and with my family. Why am I so emotional about cinema today? Because I recently got to watch a movie in theater after almost a YEAR. And it was with my…umm…HUSBAND! Haha. Feels so weird to call him that!

Even the anticipation of the watching a movie at the big screen after such a humongous gap had me grinning so much! What made it EXTRA special was that I saw Wonder Woman – 1984! Not only do I love Gal Gadot insanely but I had forgotten how magical movie watching is! I REALLY needed it so much. Although I was wearing my mask for most parts and sitting at a distance (never forgetting Corona huh), it still helped to escape the problems surrounding us and took me to 1984 with The Wonder Woman. The movie is amazing and the experience made me supremely happy. I was almost giddy by the end of it. The feeling I was missing for so long. It brought back the wonder I have always had during movies. How did they think of this? How did they shoot this? The witty dialogs, the amazing acting, mind blowing direction and picturesque scenes. There really is no better satisfaction than watching a nicely made movie! I hope I don’t have to wait this long for next one.

Forever thankful for cinema! 🥰

Let’s talk screentime!

I have recently watched “the social dilemma” on netflix and I am shook. If you have not seen it yet, please let it be what you watch next. You won’t regret it. We all know we are addicted to our phone, literal slaves to it but to learn how we got to this point is really something that stunned me. Personally, I am addicted to twitter more than any other social app. I am not on facebook, the other two apps I use a lot are Whatsapp and Instagram. Even with just these, my screen time is scary.

As funny as the meme comparing instagram to refrigerator is, it is but the truth and a harsh one at that. The constant need to check phone for notifications every 20 minutes or for some even sooner is downright addiction. One could understand if this was when you are awaiting a reply, however most of the times we are checking our phones for no reason and somehow yet, we always have a notification! Now, why we have a notification everytime we check is something the movie explains. I am clearly not telling anything we don’t already know, the real deal is what can we do about this? I have conciously cut down my time on instagram and my daily average still shows at 58minutes which seems like a lot to me. However, with no where to go (thanks covid) I guess that is the best average I can hope for. But this was my struggle with just one app. I have notifications on for twitter and I am checking tweets every hour, I am on whatsapp a lot more than what we call as ideal time and now I have a new friend called YouTube which is hard to resist.

How exactly are we suppose to go “notification off” suddenly? The need to stay updated and know what is going on supercedes everything else. How to resist this temptation and not be a “user”? I am really open to suggestions here, every little thing might help. Personally this is what I have been following for sometime now as opposed to keeping the notifications off:

• Keep phone on silent without the vibration mode except for calls

• Keep phone at a distance where every notification pop up is not visible

• Subscribe to news letters which carry daily news updates and read those instead of having notifications on for every single tweet

• Explore activities which do not involve looking at screen, example some of these for me are painting, cooking, dancing and reading.

These might sound very basic and I am yet to know if it helps but I am looking forward to getting more suggestions, if any?

Leaving you with a quote from Elon Musk which I find very interesting, “AI doesn’t have to be evil to destroy humanity – if AI has a goal and humanity just happens to come in the way, it will destroy humanity as a matter of course without even thinking about it, no hard feelings”