If we spoke our truth!

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I am sure we have all mused about the fact that what would happen if we all spoke in complete honesty and discussed our raw thoughts. No filter. No sugar coating. Thoughts as they came. Would it be good or bad? I am sure it would be both in some ways. However, for all the times I have wondered whether what is being said to me is exactly what the person means, I’d really prefer raw thoughts. If truth ends up being harsh, it would hurt and I’d cry too maybe but I’d rather be hurt with truth than be pacified by a lie. I feel too much and I feel strongly so being hurt is not a new feeling. I’ll take my chances. Honesty is powerful. If you can leave somethings unsaid, that is fine. The only point I am making is whatever you say should be honest. If you think about it, honesty does not have to coincide with being rude. You can be honest in a non hurtful way as well, it takes efforts which most people would rather not put. I, personally, cannot bring myself to bring someone down or hurt them. My way of being honest is to tell them what I think (when it is something bad) in a constructive way along with what is nice and keep them motivated to try again.

Apart from being honest when asked something, we should also be honest about the general things we talk. When someone who cares asks us how we are, why do we respond saying something casual and not actually talk about how we are? Why are we scared of our actual thoughts and feelings? Let me start. If you asked me right now, how I am and you’d want my honest answer. I’d tell you, I am not okay. I am worried that I am being a bad daughter and neglecting my parents. They deserve so much better and so much more. I have the most non complaining parents who get happy with minimal efforts and sometimes I just do bare minimum and they are happy. I try to compensate but I hate myself when I don’t give them what they deserve. I have been meaning to do something big for my partner’s upcoming birthday but I have not yet figured it out completely. I am missing my best friends who I usually discuss these things with and they are all caught up in fighting their own fights at the moment and I cannot bring myself to bother them about this. I am super overworked and I want to tell my superiors that the allocation is just not fair at the moment but I am scared of that conversation. I have a strong feeling since months now that I am always there for people but when I need someone, I am usually alone mostly because I cannot demand that from people and I have not shared this with anyone. I just want to be alone for a couple of days, without anyone to talk to (unless I want to).

I am not okay and that’s okay but what’s not okay is that no one knows I am not okay. Your turn, how are you?

36 thoughts on “If we spoke our truth!

  1. I really think Pooja is awesome. She’s a pretty intelligent lady. She really allows her mind and heart to spill into words on her blog. I think she’s getting more comfortable and confident and she’s getting bolder.

    She’s fascinating. That’s my truth.

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  2. If we know the reason behind of our feelings either good bad sad, that’s okay for not being so perfect sometimes. Parents are always the best who adjusts in everything for their children. You are a proud daughter to have such sweetest parents ❀

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  3. i would say better not to ask how are you? honesty is cold and cruel. so you would cry a lot if you heard the blunt truth. b etter less said then and fewer persons dealt with.

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  4. Ohh dear, I just loved your musings. Honesty comes up with clarification if talking to ourselves. Recently, I also faced the same situation. Being honest with my own thoughts, I was shattered at once. But the moment, every thing is clarified some part of myself, saying “everything will be fine with time. Be happy at this moment”

    In your case, rest a little, observe things for a moment yourself and the things around you, gratitude yourself for everything you got/have- work, partner, family etc.. and try to do each problem/s on at a time..

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  5. Some people prefer sugar coating or even lies to the truth. I would want to know the truth. Lies have a way of coming out in the end. It’s better to know it upfront. Your parents are so sweet. When we are grown up, we do have moments where we feel like we’re doing the bare minimum. But those are passing phases. I know you’ll make a better effort when you have made peace with your own battles. Sorry to hear that you’ve been going through a lot. I hope and wish that things take a turn for the best soon!

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    • This is all just a phase, I am happy most of the times. Just when you feel down for one thing, the pent up sadness comes up and it feels like a lot. But I am sure I will overcome it πŸ™‚ thank you so much! I agree some people would rather not see the truth but it hurts in the end when everything crumbles so better not make a structure that will fall. Rather take time and build something worthwhile πŸ’«

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  6. I am sorry to read that you are not okay, right now, Pooja. Remember, each moment is anew, and that what is happening will pass; and, that we are here for you.❀

    I think that people are often fearful of being who they really are, for fear of not being accepted, or as you write, for fear of hurting someone else. I believe this is a falsly constructed binary, which is not binary at all. We can speak our truth to each other when we are in a relationship with each other. For me, if I cannot speak my truth, then I’m not in a relationship with the person I am speaking with. And, I don’t do a lot of that today. Be well, my dear friend!! πŸ€—

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    • Thank you for your motivating words, Jeff. They help a lot. Yes indeed, people fear hurting and getting hurt too. So true, I agree with you its a falsely constructed binary. I am much like you that I cannot be with a person if there is no space for honestly 🀍

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      • You’re always welcome, Pooja. I’m glad that you find my words motivating and helpful; that is lovely to know. Mmmm. Indeed, being who we really are, is so important. Honesty, truth, our dark times, light times, etc., are all a part of it. Have a lovely weekend, my dear friend. Thinking about you…❀️

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  7. if you cant be not ok with your partner, then who can you be not ok with? it is ok to not be ok, but i would hope since you have a partner, you should be ok to confide in them about your feelings. i guess the next best thing is to vent here on wp.

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    • Oh, he is aware of this. My first and most non judgemental confidant. But I hope when I say that he cannot replace the other people in my life you agree with me? Because I have a partner, I don’t become a good daughter and I certainly don’t stop missing my friends. He is also the one who is teaching me how to put myself first! He does make being not okay tolerable but the journey from not okay to okay is really the one I need to make myself πŸ™‚

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  8. I don’t handle criticism very well so I don’t know what I will prefer !!! πŸ™ˆπŸ™ˆπŸ™ˆ and you right its perfectly okay to not be okay πŸ‘Œ πŸ™‚ you are a good daughter and your parents love you the most ❀ nothing can change this fact ❀

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  9. It’ll all be fine. Looks like you’re going through a rough phase and I just wanna say β€œthis too shall pass.” You aren’t a muggle after all πŸ˜‰πŸ€ͺBetter to use veritasium on people who’d sugarcoat, right? πŸ˜‰

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