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Have you met that one person who is never happy? No matter what is happening or how beautiful something is, they will have a problem. It’s like they will see the rainbow and say, “aye, it’s not even clearly visible or it’s not even full”. Who complains about the rainbow right? But there are people who will, especially when it is you who spotted the rainbow and not them. Oh, when they spot it, it must be the prettiest thing in the world. It’s just sad how they live. It’s sadder when we put in efforts for such people and all they do is point out issues. It is frustrating to be around such people, to say the least. Sometimes I wonder how their existence must be so exhausting. The constant complaining, comparing and nagging must really tire their brain. I can understand that such people either behave this way because they are insecure or just pure mean. But it’s hard to empathize with someone who does not empathize with anyone else. They feel happy sucking happiness out of others. They feel happy dragging others down. I usually just feel sorry for such people but I have to be honest it makes me downright angry sometimes. The blatant taunts, saying mean things as jokes, complaining and just all things that make them appear as a bully. I already know we must ignore such people, we don’t need them or their energy around us but have you ever thought of going up against them? Because they will hurt others if someone does not set the facts straight. I have always only seen people have the opinion of staying clear of such people or ignoring them but really I think we need to just tell them how their ways are so wrong. It does not have to be anything rude, just simple confrontation and letting them know the after effects of their behavior.
So, what would be your choice in dealing with such people? Looking forward to reading your opinions because nothing else can give me a better perspective 🙂
Such people are frustrating and hard to empathize with. Confronting them is great but such people are the worst ones to get into arguments. U
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Exactly. The argument might also not lead to anything fruitful and that is what is stopping me right now. It kind of might not be worth it.
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Absolutely. It’s not worth the effort
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This was me. All the words in the world telling me I was wrong didn’t help me see. Only I was able to change me
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I am so proud of you for accepting and changing. It is a big step and a difficult one at that. More power to you, you give me hope.
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I’ll be honest, there are days where I back slide, but I have learned to find the positive no matter how small. Yuo can too, with time, patience, and self-acceptance. Know you will fail. Know you will get back up. Pretending the first doesn’t exist will make the second one that much harder
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Ofcourse, no one is perfect. We all fail. We all fall back. Important is knowing where we stand and being good. I totally agree, the first step is acceptance 🙂
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May your path be slightly less rockey than mine 🙏
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There is a saying where I’m from, it goes something like ….. kill them with kindness, no matter how bad they treat you or others if you remain nice and kind to them they will either see the error of their ways of end up leaving you alone. That being said we also have another saying here too, it goes like this ….. you just have to treat them the way they treat you.💪✊🙏💗
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Hahaha now that’s a way to put me in a bigger conundrum, Rob! I agree to both sides mentioned. I am inclined towards being kind but sometimes it’s so hard!!!!
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🤣🤣🤣 yeah I like to complicate things haha, but try the 1st one 1st then if that doesn’t work go for the 2nd 🤣🤣🤣
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Done deal, will do :))
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🤣🤣🤣 failing both of them kick their ass 💪💪💪😎😎😎
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Hahahahahahhaha! That’s what I like to read.
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🤣🤣🤣 you know me, i tell it as it is and don’t mix my words haha
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every day every way meet son tom
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he s right alot but it doesnt change that he s an ass. just like saying someone s name. dont! lamo
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Well I would go with just ignoring that person and not boiling my blood over someone so hopeless..My mental peace is more important than trying to correct the other person..Karma will do its bit for them..
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Theek hai dost! 😌
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I like your shoes 🙂
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Hahaha not what the post is about but I’ll take it 🙂
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I’m king of unrelated comments… sorry.
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Hahah, no need to be sorry! It was funny and nice 😄
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Any girl who can rock flats are awesome in my book. 👍
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Yeah such people are totally frustrating. I too have met such people. The best way, according to me, is to ignore them. But how long can you keep ignoring things that constantly hurt you, right? So I think you should speak up. You should tell them that the way they behave around you does not make you happy! You literally do not need to think if saying that would make them feel that you are rude cause they weren’t thinking enough while behaving like a shit with you.
For all the 18 years of my life, I have learned one big lesson, “Gone are those days when evil could be removed with kindness. It’s the century where you just need to speak up for yourself cause nobody else will do that for you!”
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Ahh, you really think like I do. I am also just done. I mean kindness has it’s limits. But also, who knows whether the argument is worth it!!! Or whether it would make any sense to even bring it up with them. We should also remember that our voice is precious and not waste it on futile people. That’s what is making me feel ignoring is just best.
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Yeah that is true to think if the argument would actually worth it but even if it does not yet if you speak up then they would atleast know that you won’t tolerate such behavior and would make them think twice before talking shit to you again!
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Plus…your shoes look amazing…haha
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Hahahahahaha!
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I try to avoid being with them, see i am lot like enjoying small moments person, I like to go with the flow if fun is involved and these people are around you to such your energy and happy thoughts….
So I tend to avoid being around them….
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Yes, I can see where you come from. Absolutely agree they suck out all energy and fun filling us with anxiety. I have been doing same thing avoiding them.
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Don’t we all know such people….and how annoying if we have to put up with them coz they are somehow related to us or married to someone who is 🙄🙄
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You understand what I write at a level that I have not even written. Hahahah. It is errie. Spot on! It’s a pain when you cannot chuck them away as easily as we would like.
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Haha ..so true. How nice it would be to do that…just imagine though 🤔🤣
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Negative energy is very infectious! In my thought it would be good to avoid rather than confront, in hindsight it might feel like you banged your head on a wall. But depending on how we know that person we might not be able to ignore always, then it is better to take little breaks of “good me times” to balance the negative vibes with positive energy 😊
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Ahh. Wow. This is the perfect soultion. I do have a feeling of head banging on wall even thinking about them so it is only true that might happen. I will take up on the off time solution as I think that might be exactly what I need.
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It takes all sorts to make this world 😅
A person who wants to be happy, no one can make him unhappy. A person who wants to be unhappy, nobody can make him happy 😃
I have dealt with this topic in my book: 4 Pillars of Abundant Life.
You can’t and should not confront them. You can be a role model for them! We can’t change anyone. They change only when they want to!! Yes, we should keep our distance from negative people. Our environment affects us the most!!
Stay happy. Stay loved 🥰
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Oh how amazingly have you explained this. Bravo for your book, looking forward to read it. It is true that they have decided to be unhappy with the world. I have decided not to confront them and just steer clear. I don’t think they see anyone as a role model except themselves. Thank you so much for the advsie :))
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My pleasure 😊
Shall look forward to hear what you think about the book!
If we don’t love them we shall perish 😅
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Hahaha. That’s the way it seems 🙂
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It’s exhausting, honestly 🙄
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100% agree, I decided to ignore the person!
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Good!❤️
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You can’t change people. People have to change themselves. They want to be the Debbie Downers of Life then so be it. Don’t let them drag you down, just be yourself and maybe you can pull them up a bit.
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Brilliantly put, if I can help them come up even an inch that’s a win right there. Thank you!
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🙂🙂🙂
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Reblogged this on Love & Love Alone.
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Thank you
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My strategy has been to ignore or pretend I did not hear their negative comments. I respond-acknowledge positive and/or neutral/factual remarks. At the very least, it does not take long for them to learn that negativity gains nothing from me for them.
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That’s a good approach, I will try and apply. It’s just so hard to ignore sometimes, you must have a lot of patience to be able to do that 🙂
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